Wow, where did all the time go? When did my baby girl grow up? She will no longer be dependent on me. She has found someone else. This is not fair! I don’t want to lose my little girl. How can I stop her? Wait, I’m not losing her, I am gaining a son. Yes, that is what I need to do. I need to change my perspective. I must accept that this is the way it is supposed to be. Now, I can finally start working on my father of the bride speech. I kind of know what I want to say. There are no instructions on raising a child, but, I feel we did a pretty good job raising this child.
Now, what do you say to your daughter on her wedding day? You need to say the right words. You need to say what is on your mind as you write your father of the bride speech. This is her day and she deserves it to be perfect. You must get yourself together, the father of the bride is the first to make a speech, therefore, your speech has to be great. How do you introduce yourself without tearing up. Yes, fathers do cry. This is a big step. Your little girl is getting ready to go for a long, unknown journey. You hope you have prepared her for this day. This is the most important day of her life.
The first thing you need to do in your father of the bride speech is introduce yourself, that part is easy. You must make sure you acknowledge everyone you need to, such as:
- The bride and groom
- The groom’s family
- The friends and relatives
- I need a special welcome for the grandparents that were able to addend the wedding
- Anyone who travelled a great distance to attend the wedding.
- The wedding party need a special thank you for all the hard work
- Thank the florist for the beautiful flowers, and the caterers
In the father of the bride speech you can throw in a few funny stories of your daughter as she was growing up. I’m sure you have lots of stories. Make sure you do not tell embarrassing stories about your daughter, you might alienate her from you. Let her know how proud you are of her. You can mention the first time you met your new son-in-law. Let him feel that he is a welcome addition to your family. Welcome his parents into your family. They will be a very important part of your daughter’s life, therefore, you will need to get to know and love them.
As your wife and daughter make the plans and preparations for the wedding the father of the bride is in the background. The only thing you need to do is pay the bills and be ready to support them in any way you can. Emotions will run high and low until the day of the wedding. The mother of the bride and the bride will be stressed out until the final day of the wedding comes. Be very supportive of them. There will be parties, the only one that will concern you is the bachelor party.
In your speech you can give them a little advice, but not too much, let them know there will be ups and downs, but their love for each other will help them to overcome the obstacles. In a marriage you can’t give up at the first bump in the road. In order to survive you must each be willing to compromise from time to time.
Take time to talk to your new son-in-law on the rare occasions when you are alone with him while mother and daughter are making decisions. Have heart to heart conversations. Let him know he will now be her protector. This is your little girl you are handing over to him. He must love her all his heart.
One person you want to remember in your father of the bride speech is the minister. Without the minister, there would be no wedding. The minister has counseled the bride and groom throughout the preparations for the wedding. He has met with them privately and delved into their love for each other, to make sure they are meant to be together. He makes them look at each other and find their deepest feelings. He convinces them this is a lifetime experience, they must weather the bad times as well as the good times. He will help them deal with the stress and emotions. He will help them to look deeply in their hearts.
In your father of the bride speech make sure you give a special thanks to the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom for the hours of hard work they put into making your baby girls wedding day perfect. Also your daughter for being the wonderful woman she has become. Let her know how proud you are of her. Let her know no matter what you will always be there for her. These last few months have been a roller coaster ride. Stress level tend to rise and fall at a moment’s notice. Emotions run high and low. It is a relief when the wedding day finally arrives. As well as your daughter venturing down an unknown trail in her new marriage, so are you traveling down that road of uncertainty. You just turned your baby girl loose with another man. This is not easy but it must be done.
During the wedding preparations the bride and her mother will have lots of interaction with the florist. There will be decisions to make flowers to choose and colors. There will be emotional last minute changes to arrangements. In your father of the speech you need to make sure you thank the florist for her hard work and understanding.
The last thing you want to do in your father of the bride speech is to wish the bride and groom many happy years together.