When we are talking about wedding speeches, we sometimes forget that besides various techniques, rules and ideas you have something greater: your heart. An abundance of power, life, energy and ideas, emotions – in your heart are many things! Why not learn how to value them and use them for the benefit of a great father of the bride speech?
Identifying the negative emotions
You certainly have negative emotions in your heart. Maybe it was someone who once told you something like “your daughter is no good” or maybe someone else took something away from you, like a car, a house, an ex-girlfriend. We don’t even realize that many times what we face today is a result of what we suffered in the past.
Where do your negative emotions originate from? Are they caused by the abundance of thoughts and worries of today, or they were there since ages? What causes the fire on these emotions? You should always try to respond to these questions, all of them, in an attempt to identify.
Once you have identified, the only way to get rid of it is by killing the source. Sometimes this means convincing yourself that what was once done is done, and now you need to keep going knowing that nothing will change what was in the past. So what should we do? Mourn over things long gone? No! We need to wake up and see – a life, a new beginning lying ahead. That’s what you need to embrace!
Feel the ease and the relief
Once you get rid of certain negative emotions, frustrations and unsolved matters of the past there is no other way but feeling the relief. You might suddenly feel happier, more energized and capable of new works. That’s the attitude you need before pouring your heart out into an amazing piece of wedding speech for your daughter!
Of course, as a man, you might not have a born-with talent of nailing it all. Still, you can find the way easily, not nearly as complicated as others might present their versions of “reality”.
Remember the good things about your daughter
Now, the next step is really pleasant. You need to lay down or sit down and start remembering all the good things. Again, it is important to forget about any negative experiences. Your daughter is not perfect and neither are you, but that is fine, because we all make mistakes and then learn from them. So, focusing on what was once good or amazing, you start remembering your daughter’s main life events, birthdays, other special days, friends, and various other events you had together. Whether you remember 10 or 200 of such events, it doesn’t make any difference. The process of remembering the best things can last multiple days, and that doesn’t cause any difficulty nor failure. Even more: it assures you that once you are closer to actually writing the speech, you are more than well-prepared for it. More